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allyhatingheterophobe:

THE SAFETY OF TRANS PEOPLE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE COMFORT OF CIS PEOPLE.



You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

(via lil-ith)

It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

(via geekdomme)

I will always reblog this. Always.

(via myherocomplex)


asgardreid:

boyfriendhook:

In which Jaime required coffee in order to sit through the wedding vows. [x]

OMFG BEST MISTAKE EVER

Did the Tyrells bring Starbucks to King’s Landing?


karnythia:

talesofthestarshipregeneration:

theacemachine:

sourcedumal:

cybernotter:

pizzapuffs:

No media about the fact that there’s a All Male,  African American High school on the southside of chicago who year after year has a 100% graduating senior class who ALL get accepted to 4 year universities/colleges.

they just want to talk about how whether a person’s death on the southside is gang related or not.

WHAT

This is ridiculously impressive.

I’m just looking up sources, and the statistics are really incredible.

Yup

I am curious, however, of what percentage of these boys may have a disability or a learning disability…of course, not to detract from their obvious excellence, but I am a bit curious.

so am i actually. color lines comments that  they wanna see exactly how many of freshmen  make it to senior class and why that may be. 

Most of their students arrive reading 2 years below grade level, are low income & come from single parent homes. Urban Prep works because they have small class sizes, fellows (recent grads who act as mentors, tutors, & advocates) and students are in “prides” that essentially mean they always have a support network of peers as well as instructors. The staff is highly educated & has a demonstrable investment in the success of these disadvantaged young men of color. It’s literally designed to close the gaps that these students have had to deal with throughout their education. I have some criticisms of the way it focuses so heavily on the success of boys of color while excluding girls of color, but the model is at base a good one.


pplm:

The “Power and Control Wheel” depicts common abusive behaviors or tactics that are used by abusers against their partners. 

pplm:

The “Power and Control Wheel” depicts common abusive behaviors or tactics that are used by abusers against their partners. 


anonynaila:

subvertcliche:

mello-dramatic:

Everyone who reblogs this will get the title of a book to read based on their bio/posts.

Everyone. I mean it.

THIS IS THE BEST POST

I HAVE EVER SEEN

EVER

they really do mean everyone


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game of thrones

someone should just kill joffrey

just kill him right now

10 minutes later:

DREAMS REALLY DO COME TRUE


escapedgoat:

thelandbeyondthewall:

l20music:

fatshitcray:

datzhott:

Plus-Sized Woman Rocks Bikini on Hollywood Boulevard to Promote Body Acceptance
Los Angeles is known for many things: great weather, a laidback lifestyle, and Hollywood’s biggest stars. But for many who live in La La Land, the pressure to conform to a certain beauty standard can leave them feeling downright depressed.

Why didn’t this have any notes?

It doesnt have any notes because its a black woman doing it. Had it been a white woman this wouldve been national news.

X____X

escapedgoat:

thelandbeyondthewall:

l20music:

fatshitcray:

datzhott:

Plus-Sized Woman Rocks Bikini on Hollywood Boulevard to Promote Body Acceptance

Los Angeles is known for many things: great weather, a laidback lifestyle, and Hollywood’s biggest stars. But for many who live in La La Land, the pressure to conform to a certain beauty standard can leave them feeling downright depressed.

Why didn’t this have any notes?

It doesnt have any notes because its a black woman doing it. Had it been a white woman this wouldve been national news.

X____X



hufflepug:

There is nothing wrong with having a bad day, nothing at all. There is nothing wrong with putting your jammies on and staying in. The world will wait, the world will not combust because you can’t force a smile. - Sharon Rooney

bottom right she literally looks like an oil painting


axonsandsynapses:

yuletidekarkat:

dannygayhealani:

creatingaquietmind:

the speech impediment of the 21st century (by Marc Johns)

I’ll fuck you up buddy this is not a speech impediment it’s linguistic evolution!! the existence of the phrase “Aisha was like” allows the speaker to convey whatever Aisha said without making the listener assume they’re quoting Aisha directly while still maintaining the FEELING of what Aisha said.
ie, Aisha said she didn’t want to go out with me VERSUS Aisha was like, “I’d rather kiss a Wookie”.
the addition of “XYZ was like” lets the speaker be more expressive and efficient and it is a totally valid method of communicating information!!

With the way language has evolved, this is one of the few ways I can even think of to express in casual conversation what someone said. 
"So I said to Aisha," is certainly used, but if you remove the "so," which implies casual tone ("and" can be used in the same way), you get
"I said to Aisha," which is really formal in most English dialects/variations. I don’t know about all, but in New England dialects, you sound like you’re reading aloud from a novel.
"I told Aisha," is really only used when you continue to describe, not tell, what you told her. Ex: "I told Aisha that James was too punk for her" works while, "I told Aisha, ‘James is too punk for you’" crosses the line back into formalness of the "I said."
Things like “I asked” or “I answered [with]” are similar levels of casual and efficient to the “So, I said [or say, as many conversations about the past take place in present tense anyway, as if the speaker is giving a play-by-play in the moment]” but are specific to only certain situations. 
"I was like, 'Marc Johns, what is your obsession with restoring archaic speech patterns and interfering with the natural progression of English from complex to efficient?'" envelopes all of these easily and is accessible and crisp, and allows for more variations on inflection than the others.
Of course, James is probably like, “I already fucking said that.” But eh, I tried adding on.

#linguistics #a.k.a. how I learned to stop worrying and love the evolution of the English language without being a discriminatory elitist jerk (via crystalandrock)

axonsandsynapses:

yuletidekarkat:

dannygayhealani:

creatingaquietmind:

the speech impediment of the 21st century (by Marc Johns)

I’ll fuck you up buddy this is not a speech impediment it’s linguistic evolution!! the existence of the phrase “Aisha was like” allows the speaker to convey whatever Aisha said without making the listener assume they’re quoting Aisha directly while still maintaining the FEELING of what Aisha said.

ie, Aisha said she didn’t want to go out with me VERSUS Aisha was like, “I’d rather kiss a Wookie”.

the addition of “XYZ was like” lets the speaker be more expressive and efficient and it is a totally valid method of communicating information!!

With the way language has evolved, this is one of the few ways I can even think of to express in casual conversation what someone said. 

"So I said to Aisha," is certainly used, but if you remove the "so," which implies casual tone ("and" can be used in the same way), you get

"I said to Aisha," which is really formal in most English dialects/variations. I don’t know about all, but in New England dialects, you sound like you’re reading aloud from a novel.

"I told Aisha," is really only used when you continue to describe, not tell, what you told her. Ex: "I told Aisha that James was too punk for her" works while, "I told Aisha, ‘James is too punk for you’" crosses the line back into formalness of the "I said."

Things like “I asked” or “I answered [with]” are similar levels of casual and efficient to the “So, I said [or say, as many conversations about the past take place in present tense anyway, as if the speaker is giving a play-by-play in the moment]” but are specific to only certain situations. 

"I was like, 'Marc Johns, what is your obsession with restoring archaic speech patterns and interfering with the natural progression of English from complex to efficient?'" envelopes all of these easily and is accessible and crisp, and allows for more variations on inflection than the others.

Of course, James is probably like, “I already fucking said that.” But eh, I tried adding on.

  (via crystalandrock)


Gender Identity for elementary students

fuckyeahsexeducation:

SO I’m doing research on how to teach about gender identity to elementary students. Here are the different activities I’ve found so far:

  • Write two gender lists “boys” and “girls” and ask them to describe both. Then go through the list and say “if a boy wasn’t this would he still be a boy?” “If a girl was like this would she still be a girl?”
  • Think back to a time when you realized that you were being treated a certain way because of your gender. What feelings come up for you as you recall that experience? Go back to a memory of a situation that you think was unfair or unjust Write a new ending to the story, one that seems     more just.
  • Look at gender in their schools/homes/extracurricular/books/shows activities like toys or other experiences that divide them by gender •     How     does     the     school     environment     reinforce    
    traditional gender norms?
    •     How     does     it     challenge     them?    
    •     What     are     five     changes     that     would     make     school    
    fairer in terms of gender and more welcoming,
    respectful, and safe for everyone?
    •     What     can     you     do     to     make     this     happen?

Have students think about the gendered spaces during class time, recess, after-school activities and in the school cafeteria. Below are some possible questions to get the conversation started.

  • Are there gender differences in what kids are expected to do during recess?
  • Are more girls than boys called on to answer questions in class? Or vice versa? Does it depend on the lesson or subject?
  • Do gender differences exist in which sports students are expected to play during physical education class? Or in who gets chosen to be team captains?
  • In the lunchroom, do students sit together in gender-based groups?
  • Are there differences in which school activities boys and girls are expected to participate, such as choir, drama club, sports teams, etc.?
  • When students read aloud in class, do teachers tend to match students with roles based on their gender?
  • Have students think about the gendered spaces during class time, recess, after-school activities and in the school cafeteria. Below are some possible questions to get the conversation started.

    • Are there gender differences in what kids are expected to do during recess?
    • Are more girls than boys called on to answer questions in class? Or vice versa? Does it depend on the lesson or subject?
    • Do gender differences exist in which sports students are expected to play during physical education class? Or in who gets chosen to be team captains?
    • In the lunchroom, do students sit together in gender-based groups?
    • Are there differences in which school activities boys and girls are expected to participate, such as choir, drama club, sports teams, etc.?
    • When students read aloud in class, do teachers tend to match students with roles based on their gender?
  • Use of roleplays like these http://www.tolerance.org/sites/default/files/general/role%20plays%203-5.pdf
  • reading books like princess boy in class
  • discussion about different games or toys like playdoh or racecars and if only certain genders can use them. Then have them write about gendering things or draw pictures
  •  Ask student partners to share one time they felt like they were really inside the box for their gender, and one time they felt like they were really outside the box. Emphasize that while some people seem to fit into gender norms or stereotypes more than others, almost everyone has times or parts of themselves that are outside the box.
  • Asking questions such as;

     

    • Why are there different toys for boys and for girls?
    • Should girls play football? Why/why not?
    • Are there jobs which girls/women should not do?
    • Are there jobs which boys/men should not do?
    • Look at the picture below (you can use and copy this freely for non-commercial purposes) Why do we need different mice for girls and boys?
    • What things are unfair to girls?
    • What things are unfair to boys?
    • What is difficult about being a boy/man?
    • What is difficult about being a girl/woman?
    • How many of these difficulties are caused by society rather than nature?
    • Why shouldn’t boys cry?
    • Why should women be paid less for doing the same sort of work as men?
     
    Will help children discuss issues relating to sexism. Teachers could also look at gender roles in the media, celebrities, films, books, and sexism in advertising. Get the children to collect examples of sexism in the media and make a display board about it. Look at sexism in history, including things such as the suffragettes.

    This can then easily be taken further with questions like;

  • What if you were a boy but everyone told you you were a girl?
  • What would it be like if you were neither a boy nor a girl?
  • What would it be like if you were both a boy and a girls?
  • Why can’t some children be a different gender from the one they were born into?
  • Why do all boys have to like wearing trousers and playing football?
  • Why do all girls have to like wearing skirts and giggling?
  • Why can’t a boy play with dolls?
  • Why can’t a boy wear a dress or a skirt or a pink t-shirt?
  • Why is it that girls are allowed to do “boys” things like wear jeans and play football but boys aren’t allowed to wear skirts or play with dolls?

Which do you like? Which do you don’t like? What’s good about these activities? What’s missing? What would you do differently?