"When did you decide to be female/male?" #questionscisfolksneverhear
Such a simple concept. I have no idea why it confuses so many cis people.
The times I have tried to explain being transgender from my perspective, it’s met with confused stares and questions like “Why would your parents decide to raise you as a boy if you had a vagina?”
And I’d respond “No, I didn’t have a vagina. I had a penis.”
"Oh, so you were a boy! Why didn’t you just say so?"
"Because I wasn’t!"
No pride for some of us without liberation for all of us. Portrait of Marsha “Pay It no Mind” Johnson, a mother of the trans* and queer liberation movement. She fought at Stonewall and dedicated her life to helping trans* youth, sex workers and poor and incarcerated queers. We honor her legacy by supporting trans women of color to Live + Lead.
Progress for LGBT people means nothing if it comes at the expense of others also marginalized and fighting for justice. Gay advocacy paid for by companies that poison the land, treat their workers unfairly, and assist in the killing of children from other nations is worthless in the long run. If we truly want a world where LGBT people are equal, we have to recognize that such equality is contingent upon justice for all people.
Not when health care is provided to every same-sex couple, but where health care is accessible to all; not when violent homophobia is eliminated, but when violence based on hatred of any group is eliminated. It might sound Utopian, and it might not be achieved through high profile fund raising dinners. But the alternative, inequality and corporate exploitation draped in a pride flag, is neither progressive nor equal.
Black lesbian couple found murdered in Galveston, TX
March 10, 2014
The bodies of two Houston women, a lesbian couple, were discovered near a dumpster in Galveston County, Texas. Crystal Jackson and her girlfriend Britney Cosby, both 24, had been together for two years and lived together. Their bodies were found Friday morning next to a convenience store dumpster, reports Houston’s ABC 13.
Relatives say the two women went to Galveston for Mardi Gras. Detectives believe they were killed elsewhere and their bodies moved. Reports also indicate that they were murdered in different ways. It’s currently unclear whether this was a hate crime or there was some other motive for the murder.
“That was her girlfriend, that was her soulmate,” James Randle, neighbor to Britney Cosby, told ABC.
Investigators are looking for a silver 2006 Kia Sorrento with paper tags–a car the couple recently purchased together. It is missing and whoever took it may be the same person who took their lives, reporters say.
Anyone with information regarding the victims’ deaths or the stolen vehicle is asked to call the Galveston County Sheriff’s Office tip line at 866-248-8477.
Rest in power.
REFUGE restrooms is now live on the web at http://www.refugerestrooms.org. It is viewable on any browser.
REFUGE seeks to provide safe bathroom access for transgender, intersex, and other gender nonconformist individuals. A few months back the valuable safe2pee database stopped working. We present Refuge as a replacement. Starting with the existing database of listings from Safe2Pee, refuge makes the database easily searchable and mappable to allow folks to find the nearest safe restroom.This is very much in its alpha stage and had a lot of growing to do. I started learning how to code not that long ago so I’m still learning how I can make the app better and better. The app is open source so please contribute to the project on github @http://www.github.com/tkwidmer/refugerestroomsstay tuned both here and on twitter @refugerestrooms.
Amsterdam is turning rainbow for a visit of the Russian president Putin. The council of the city of Amsterdam has decided to hang out the gay pride flag on all council owned buildings and offices, in protest to Russia’s new anti-gay law.
pretty sure Amsterdam is now the sass capital of the world
this is the actual best thing
Find out more about Transgender Day of Remembrance at www.transgenderdor.org
See the list of people who died because of anti-transgender violence in 2012.
just because coming out is brave, doesn’t mean being in the closet is cowardly.
queer existence, queer survival is brave.
Including “Young adult novels with main and supporting characters who identify as Transgender” and “Young adult novels with Genderqueer characters or characters who express gender ambiguity”
This is a list I made for YALSA’s The Hub on the wide range of YA literature featuring LGBTQ characters. See the full post and a downloadable pdf here.
That’s right kiddies: It’s time for another intersectionality lecture compliments of lightspeedsound, resident asian bitch diva goddess.
So this is why I cringe and scream whenever a white queer person talks about how we don’t need to mention race, because “we’re all queer here.”
Like dude, plz stfu.
Here’s my thing:
When a white kid comes out, sure, there are unaccepting parents. There are also parents that are totally cool and cognizant. A white (cis) gay guy friend of mine told me that his mom cried when he came out to her. Not because she was homophobic and hated the gay or anything ,but because she was scared about the way the world was going to treat her son…a a GAY man.
Now, when I came out to my mom (who, I’m sure, told my dad. It’s pretty much a given in my immediate family that I’m totes queer), she reacted pretty much ideally. Sure, there was some awkward and uncomfortable explaining about pansexuality/bisexuality and how that worked and how “No, mom, that does not mean that I’m incapable of being in an exclusive relationship with a dude,” but it turned out really great. At the end of the conversation, after I started crying with frustration because mom didn’t get my sexuality, she started crying too. And she just hugged me and said, “All I want, and all papa wants, all we want as parents, is for you to find somebody that loves you as much as you love them. That cherishes you the way we do. That’s all a parent could ever wish for, for their kids.” Cue the heartwarming strings music.
Anyways, that was just step one. For white queer kids with accepting parents, it’s all about getting the world to see the kid beyond their respective queerness.
But when *I* was applying to law school, and writing a VERY queer-driven personal statement, my mom sat me down and had a really serious talk. And sure, it was about queerness, but it was also about being Asian.
My mom, by the way is pretty much an asian bitch diva goddess, just like me. She’s where I get it from. She raised me and my sister to give no fucks and to basically radiate awesomeness and class. My mother is a tiny asian woman doctor, who raised me and my sister in the South (with a capital “S,” it was that fucking conservative). She (and my dad) grew up during martial law in the Philippines. They earned their green card in inner city Detroit and then Wise FUCKING Virginia (which is as boonie town southern as it gets). My mother is literally a super hero.
So when she sat me down to talk to me about being an Asian woman in a white man’s profession, I listened close.
Basically, my mom told me that while she knew I was awesome and more than my Asian queerhood, the white people who would be guiding all the most important decisions wouldn’t. She told me that my last name alone pretty much guaranteed that I would be immediately judged as an Asian woman. That I would have to work ten times harder, be ten times more competent, be ten times more impressive and well-spoken and well-dressed just to be taken seriously, be viewed as more than a “diversity badge” for whomever I ended up working for. That I would be facing a hell of a lot of stereotypes about women, Asians, and submissive Asian women.
So, my mom explained, coming out in an application personal statement as QUEER TOO was shooting myself in the foot. I would be screwing myself over. ”That’s just the way the world works,” she said. The way to go, she advised, was to be hella impressive and accomplished, and THEN come out. In the long run, my credibility wouldn’t be questioned. And, as a successful queer, Asian woman, I would be doing more for the movement’s image. I could disprove bigotry and raise awareness from a position of power.
So don’t talk to me about how the queer rights movement doesn’t need any conversations about race thrown in. It’s impossible for me to fathom approaching issues of queerness without taking into account my race. There are layers and layers of experiences and considerations and for you, a white person, to tell me that I’m doing less for the movement because I’m “diverting” it is more than ignorance. It’s fucking erasure. It’s fucking stupidity. And it’s going to get some QPOC in downright fucking dangerous situations, you asshat. Stop thinking that the entire world of queerness is in a vacuum. it’s not.
I’m here and I’m queer.
And I’m Asian and trailblazin’
Deal with it.
In light of this week’s Supreme Court rulings, following is a summary of the laws on same-sex marriage in all 50 states, and a look at how the Supreme Court action might affect them