anarcho-queer:

NYPD Chokes Innocent Man To Death After He Breaks Up A Fight

A 400-pound asthmatic Staten Island dad died Thursday after a cop put him in a chokehold and other officers appeared to slam his head against the sidewalk, video of the incident shows.

I can’t breathe! I can’t breathe!” Eric Garner, 43, repeatedly screamed after at least five NYPD officers took him down in front of a Tompkinsville beauty supply store when he balked at being handcuffed.

Within moments Garner, a married father of six children with two grandchildren, stopped struggling and appeared to be unconscious as police called paramedics to the scene. An angry crowd gathered, some recording with smartphones.

The Staten Island resident was sitting in front of Bay Beauty on Bay St. and Victory Blvd. just before 5 p.m. when two plainclothes cops began questioning him about selling untaxed cigarettes, a video obtained by the Daily News shows.

I didn’t do shit!” the 6-foot-4 Garner, wearing a sweaty T-shirt and khaki shorts, told the officers from the 120th Precinct when they approached him. “I was just minding my own business.

Every time you see me you want to mess with me. I’m tired of it. It stops today!” he yelled.

Ramsey Orta, 22, who shot the video, tried to intervene, telling the cops his friend had just broken up a fight between three men and had not been selling cigarettes.

They jumped him and they were choking him. He was foaming at the mouth,” Orta told The News. “And that’s it, he was done. The cops were saying, ‘No, he’s OK, he’s OK.” He wasn’t OK.

They were choking him. He kept saying, ‘I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe! Get off of me, get off of me!’ and I didn’t hear any more talking after that,” said witness Valencia Griffin, 50, of Staten Island. “He died right there.

At the video’s end, the cop who had choke-held Garner can be seen staring at the camera that was videotaping him.

“This had nothing to do with the fight, this had something to do with something else,” the cop said, and walked away.

According to bystanders, the dozen or so cops who were at the scene didn’t attempt CPR. They were more concerned about dispersing the crowd who seen the murder.


Whenever a conscious Black woman raises her voice on issues central to her existence, somebody is going to call her strident, because they don’t want to hear about it, nor us. I refuse to be silenced and I refuse to be trivialized, even if I do not say what I have to say perfectly.
— Audre THE Lorde (via decolonize-all-the-things)

amerikkkan-stories:

rollership:

Man Arrested After Drinking Iced Tea In Public Must Take Deal Or Go To Trial

A man drinking canned iced tea in a parking lot was accosted by a plainclothes beverage cop who demanded to inspect his drink.  He was placed in handcuffs and arrested.   Even though the man was innocent and was only drinking tea, prosecutors are still trying to set him up with probation and community service.

One man, Christopher Lamont Beatty, was holding a canned beverage, while his friend, Tino Brown, was recording video using his cell phone.  That’s when the two were interrupted by a man who was interested in the man’s choice of refreshments.

A man in plainclothes, claiming to be “the police”, insisted that he turn over his beverage for an inspection.  Beatty refused the stranger’s requests, but pointed out that it was only an AriZona-brand drink, “Half-and-Half” iced tea and pink lemonade — not alcohol.

Brown and Beatty pointed out that they didn’t know the identity of the nosy man and that Beatty had committed no crime.   Still, the man demanded to examine his beverage and would not take no for an answer.

The stranger then claimed that Mr. Beatty was under arrest.  He became grabby and ended up putting Beatty in a choke-hold as he took him down to the ground.

The bully, who turned out to be Alcohol & Beverage Control Law Enforcer Rick Libero, forced Mr. Beatty face-down onto the concrete and placed him in handcuffs.

The government requests that Beatty “submit to a year of probation, do 24 hours of community service, have a mental health assessment, and submit to drug testing and warrantless searches,” reported the Fayetteville Observer.

“It would get it dismissed at the end, but I would still have to take responsibility for my actions, and I felt like I did nothing wrong,” Beatty said 

Black in AmeriKKKa. 


I maintain that every civil rights bill in this country was passed for white people, not for black people. For example, I am black. I know that. I also know that while I am black I am a human being. Therefore I have the right to go into any public place. White people don’t know that. Every time I tried to go into a public place they stopped me. So some boys had to write a bill to tell that white man, “He’s a human being; don’t stop him." That bill was for the white man, not for me. I knew I could vote all the time and that it wasn’t a privilege but my right. Every time I tried I was shot, killed or jailed, beaten or economically deprived. So somebody had to write a bill to tell white people, “When a black man comes to vote, don’t bother him." That bill was for white people. I know I can live anyplace I want to live. It is white people across this country who are incapable of allowing me to live where I want. You need a civil rights bill, not me.

Stokely Carmichael, setting shit straight and placing responsibility for the “race problem” squarely where it belongs. 

 

The very language in regards to civil rights in this country is embedded in white supremacist ideology. How many of us have been duped into accepting the fallacious notion that whites have “given” blacks rights? The notion itself presupposes black inferiority while failing to acknowledge the root problem: white racism. Change the language, change your mind.

(via chancellorschamber)

OMG

(via weakdaes)

Welp! And note how racists go “well we gave you rights” as if thats an act of benevolence or some shit, like treating human beings with a modicum of decency is something to fucking congratulate for.

(via sourcedumal)


glitterlion:

strugglingtobeheard:

TW: Extreme Antiblack misogyny (w/ facts), Murder, Abuse
strugglingtobeheard:

onelittlegee:

sydney-a-belle:

strugglingtobeheard:

onelittlegee:

…

no lies detected tho. remember when i said this was the case, someone tried to try me and say it was heart disease. but they too blinded to do the right looking to find the statistics that prove it true. i mean, we got a lot of rightful outrage over white ppl killing Black boys but not for Black men killing Black women and girls.

where are the statistics that prove this? cause i googled it and all i found were message boards and a conservative site that back this up which is not factual.

http://www.dallasnews.com/news/crime/headlines/20130921-black-women-at-greater-risk-of-becoming-victims-of-homicidal-domestic-violence.ece?nclick_check=1
I can think of four BW in my family rn off the top of my head whose SO caused their deaths…

BY THE NUMBERS
The Violence Policy Center in Washington, D.C., found these facts in its 2012 report of 2010 domestic violence statistics for black women:
94 percent of black womenkilled by men in single victim/single offender incidents knew their killers.
Nearly 15 times as many black women were murdered by a man they knew than were killed by a stranger.
64 percent of black victimswho knew their offenders were wives, ex-wives or girlfriends of the offenders.
The number of black women shot and killed by their husband or intimate partner was nearly five times as high as the total number murdered by strangers using all weapons combined.
That is from the article ^^
In 1999, homicide was the third leading cause of injury-related death for all women (pregnant or not pregnant) of reproductive age, 15 to 44 years of age, after deaths caused by motor vehicle accidents and suicide, and it was the second leading cause of injury-related death among women aged 15 to 24 years and among Black women of reproductive age.1 Moracco and Runyan reported the highest homicide rate occurring among women under the age of 35 and found that the homicide rate for Black women (15.8 per 100 000) was more than 3 times higher than that for White women (4.3 per 100 000).2
^^ this is from http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1449204/ and is related to 1999 but also pregnant Black women especially.
http://www.idvaac.org/media/publications/FactSheet.IDVAAC_AAPCFV-Community%20Insights.pdf
here is another source about IPV and homicide rates. rates have declined, as the article onelittlegee linked to also stated but more so for Black men than Black women and the rates have changed to an increase in Black women being killed more by Black men rather than vice versa. 
also another report by the department of health pennsylvania also states homicide is the top killer for both Black men and Black women ages 15-24. Black men are generally killing other Black men. Black men are also killing Black women. this isn’t saying Black men are more prone to violence, simply that the violence we have experienced as a race has led to some fucked up misogyny that hurts Black women in ways that lead to death at a Black man’s hands, at a young ass age. 
^^ i found this source, which is a free downloadable PDF, 9 sources down out of 10 in a google search of black women top killer homicide ages 15 to 35, the site starts as portal.gov something or other.

i’m still annoyed and angry as fuck these men tried to tell us that the number one cause of death of women ages 15 to 24 is heart disease. how much sense does that truly make? shut the fuck up. you are part of the problem. 

Like, I wish all the folks who constantly try to downplay the physical and sexual violence Black women face by yelling “heart disease” would actually look at what that means. “Heart disease” is not just one thing. And the causes of it go beyond congenital defects and shit like that. Like, the stress and violence Black women experience on the daily, from physical violence like DV to psychological violence through microaggressions, can exacerbate “heart disease”.
Saying “heart disease” is actually a pretty empty statement unless you look at the context, causes, and so on.

glitterlion:

strugglingtobeheard:

TW: Extreme Antiblack misogyny (w/ facts), Murder, Abuse

strugglingtobeheard:

onelittlegee:

sydney-a-belle:

strugglingtobeheard:

onelittlegee:

no lies detected tho. remember when i said this was the case, someone tried to try me and say it was heart disease. but they too blinded to do the right looking to find the statistics that prove it true. i mean, we got a lot of rightful outrage over white ppl killing Black boys but not for Black men killing Black women and girls.

where are the statistics that prove this? cause i googled it and all i found were message boards and a conservative site that back this up which is not factual.

http://www.dallasnews.com/news/crime/headlines/20130921-black-women-at-greater-risk-of-becoming-victims-of-homicidal-domestic-violence.ece?nclick_check=1

I can think of four BW in my family rn off the top of my head whose SO caused their deaths…

BY THE NUMBERS

The Violence Policy Center in Washington, D.C., found these facts in its 2012 report of 2010 domestic violence statistics for black women:

94 percent of black womenkilled by men in single victim/single offender incidents knew their killers.

Nearly 15 times as many black women were murdered by a man they knew than were killed by a stranger.

64 percent of black victimswho knew their offenders were wives, ex-wives or girlfriends of the offenders.

The number of black women shot and killed by their husband or intimate partner was nearly five times as high as the total number murdered by strangers using all weapons combined.

That is from the article ^^

In 1999, homicide was the third leading cause of injury-related death for all women (pregnant or not pregnant) of reproductive age, 15 to 44 years of age, after deaths caused by motor vehicle accidents and suicide, and it was the second leading cause of injury-related death among women aged 15 to 24 years and among Black women of reproductive age.1 Moracco and Runyan reported the highest homicide rate occurring among women under the age of 35 and found that the homicide rate for Black women (15.8 per 100 000) was more than 3 times higher than that for White women (4.3 per 100 000).2

^^ this is from http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1449204/ and is related to 1999 but also pregnant Black women especially.

http://www.idvaac.org/media/publications/FactSheet.IDVAAC_AAPCFV-Community%20Insights.pdf

here is another source about IPV and homicide rates. rates have declined, as the article onelittlegee linked to also stated but more so for Black men than Black women and the rates have changed to an increase in Black women being killed more by Black men rather than vice versa. 

also another report by the department of health pennsylvania also states homicide is the top killer for both Black men and Black women ages 15-24. Black men are generally killing other Black men. Black men are also killing Black women. this isn’t saying Black men are more prone to violence, simply that the violence we have experienced as a race has led to some fucked up misogyny that hurts Black women in ways that lead to death at a Black man’s hands, at a young ass age.

^^ i found this source, which is a free downloadable PDF, 9 sources down out of 10 in a google search of black women top killer homicide ages 15 to 35, the site starts as portal.gov something or other.

i’m still annoyed and angry as fuck these men tried to tell us that the number one cause of death of women ages 15 to 24 is heart disease. how much sense does that truly make? shut the fuck up. you are part of the problem. 

Like, I wish all the folks who constantly try to downplay the physical and sexual violence Black women face by yelling “heart disease” would actually look at what that means. “Heart disease” is not just one thing. And the causes of it go beyond congenital defects and shit like that. Like, the stress and violence Black women experience on the daily, from physical violence like DV to psychological violence through microaggressions, can exacerbate “heart disease”.

Saying “heart disease” is actually a pretty empty statement unless you look at the context, causes, and so on.


3 months ago - reblog

Javon Johnson - “cuz he’s black” (NPS 2013) (by Button Poetry)


Black girls don’t get told we are beautiful enough. Black girls aren’t always told we can be princesses. Cute, sweet, innocent, pure- these are not words black girls often hear associated with us. Fast, sassy, mouthy, too grown, angry, aggressive- those are the words that get shot at us like darts. Black girls are not girls- we are mini women who are forced to be strong. You must tell black girls they are beautiful, innocent, sweet, magical. You must treat black girls as girls. Then, you can talk about black girl characters whose looks and femininity doesn’t matter. Otherwise, you are just maintaining the status quo- denying black girls our beauty and femininity.
— Brittney Jones (via esaedders)

10 Black Books You May Not Have Known Were Banned or Challenged - Atlanta Black Star →

blackourstory:

Tony Morrison and Richard Wright have obviously been wielding the word effectively.


activistaabsentee:

d-pi:

thehungryhungryemo:

note-a-bear:

qweent:


Tulsa OK 1921: US Government Bombs US City



National Guard troops patrolling the streets armed. Thousands of black people held in a convention center. Hundreds of black dead, with bodies piled like wood. That was not New Orleans, that was Tulsa, Oklahoma, in June 1921.On May 30, 1921 a young black man named Dick Rowland, stumbled into a white woman, while entering an elevator. He was accused of assault, and arrested the next day. Newly rich from oil Tulsa, was a Ku Klux Klan town. Rowland was sentenced to be hanged. The Tulsa Tribune called for a “Negro lynching tonight.”The white mob was surprised when they were met by several dozen armed black men, dressed in their World War I uniforms. This led to a racist three day destruction of the black neighborhood of Greenwood. The Red Cross reported 300 mostly dead black people.Greenwood called “Little Africa,” was a relatively wealthy community. White mobs, many deputized, destroyed every house, store, church or school. The mob met resistance from an armed black population. Governor Robertson declared martial law. The National Guard arrived with machine gun mounted trucks, and airplanes hovering over Greenwood. It was the first time an American city was bombed from the air, by the US government.Over 6,000 black people, were round up and held in the convention center and fairgrounds, as long as eight days. The homeless were shuttled into a tent city, where typhoid and malnutrition took over. Blacks were allowed out of the convention center, with a tag, with an employers name. Thosands fled the city.Attempts to turn Greenwood into an industrial zone were unsuccessful. For several years, it was deprived of paved streets, running water, and garbage collection.See: Tulsa Reparations Coalition and thank you to Internationalist Group for presenting this story in your newspaper.
RENEGADE EYE
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Always needs to be reblogged

Shit they don’t teach you in school.



What in the hell. 

activistaabsentee:

d-pi:

thehungryhungryemo:

note-a-bear:

qweent:

Tulsa OK 1921: US Government Bombs US City


National Guard troops patrolling the streets armed. Thousands of black people held in a convention center. Hundreds of black dead, with bodies piled like wood. That was not New Orleans, that was Tulsa, Oklahoma, in June 1921.

On May 30, 1921 a young black man named Dick Rowland, stumbled into a white woman, while entering an elevator. He was accused of assault, and arrested the next day. Newly rich from oil Tulsa, was a Ku Klux Klan town. Rowland was sentenced to be hanged. The Tulsa Tribune called for a “Negro lynching tonight.”

The white mob was surprised when they were met by several dozen armed black men, dressed in their World War I uniforms. This led to a racist three day destruction of the black neighborhood of Greenwood. The Red Cross reported 300 mostly dead black people.

Greenwood called “Little Africa,” was a relatively wealthy community. White mobs, many deputized, destroyed every house, store, church or school. The mob met resistance from an armed black population. Governor Robertson declared martial law. The National Guard arrived with machine gun mounted trucks, and airplanes hovering over Greenwood. It was the first time an American city was bombed from the air, by the US government.

Over 6,000 black people, were round up and held in the convention center and fairgrounds, as long as eight days. The homeless were shuttled into a tent city, where typhoid and malnutrition took over. Blacks were allowed out of the convention center, with a tag, with an employers name. Thosands fled the city.

Attempts to turn Greenwood into an industrial zone were unsuccessful. For several years, it was deprived of paved streets, running water, and garbage collection.

See: Tulsa Reparations Coalition and thank you to Internationalist Group for presenting this story in your newspaper.

RENEGADE EYE

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Always needs to be reblogged

Shit they don’t teach you in school.

What in the hell. 


A white student may feel discomfort when it’s pointed out to him how he has benefited from structural racism, but to compare that discomfort to discrimination is a false equivalency. Hurt feelings hurt, but it is not oppression. But hurt feelings can be bad for business. And a lot of powerful people think colleges should act more like businesses. When they do, students act more like customers. And our likely customers might not be amicable to discussions about structural racism. If the customer is always right, then the majority share of customers is more right than the minority.

tiaralovesrkandthings:

Racism is not dead. It’s not. And that’s why this film is so important. To understand American society today, it starts with these kinds of stories, and the fact that they haven’t been dealt with yet. There’s work to be done. There are apologies that need to be sought and apologies that need to be offered. And that’s on a political level and a social level and an individual level and a communal level

                     -Lupita Nyong’o


thegoddamazon:

vasundharaa:

This is a resource post for all the Good White Person™s out there. You know, the ones who say things like “It’s not my fault I’m white! Don’t generalize white people!”, or “I’m appreciating your culture! You should be proud!”, or “Why do you hate all white people, look I’m a special snowflake who’s not racist give me an award for meeting the minimum requirements for being a decent human being”.Well, if you are actually interested in understanding racism and how it ties into cultural appropriation, please read instead of endlessly badgering PoCs on tumblr with your cliched, unoriginal arguments and repeating the same questions over and over.
On White Privilegeaka don’t blame me just because I’m white:
It’s Not My Fault I Was Born White: Basics of White Privilege x
Racial Divide x
Endless Examples of White Privilege x
You Cannot Know What It’s Like To Be A Racial Minority x
Intersectional Feminism x
White Privilege Does Not Mean White People Have Perfect Lives x
White Privilege and White Supremacy: A Presentation x
You Will Never Experience Racism x
Understanding White Privilege x
White Privilege and Double Standards x
Systematic White Ignorance x
The Invisibility of White Privilege x
The Luxury of White Privilege x 
White Privilege: The Harry Potter Analogy x
Privilege Denial Bingo x
Privilege and Cost x
Check Your Privilege 101 x
Whiteness x
Whiteness is Not A Culture x
White Privilege and Racism x
Deeply Embarrassed White People Talk About Race x
When White Anti Racists Talk About ~Their Struggle~ x
White Privilege As A System x
On Reverse Racism aka you are being racist against white people:
Are White People Racially Oppressed x
White People, the new Racial Minority x
People Don’t Value Pale Skin!! x
There Is No Such Thing As Reverse Racism x
Racism vs. Not Racism x
But White People Are Discriminated Against In Foreign Countries x
The Myth of Reverse Racism: Why Cracker is Not N**** x
Satire: A Step Wise Guide on Being Reverse Racist x
Racism Against White People vs. Racism Against POCs x
On Cultural Appropriationaka I’m just appreciating your culture:
The Basics x
Identifying Appropriation x
But When We Wear It … x
Why Can’t I Wear It (Hipster Headdresses) x
Not Yours x
If You Take The Bindi x
White People Do It Better x
Multiculturalism and Appropriation x
Cultural Appropriation and Portrayals In Print Media x
Diminishing the Cultural Significance of the Bindi x
The Cultural Appropriation Bingo x
Why We’re Fed Up of Your Responses x
Identities Are Not Costumes x
Hinduism And Appropriation x
Religion and Privilege x
Bindis Are Cool x
Exotic India x
What’s Wrong With Cultural Appropriation x
Racism, Bindis and Ganesh Tattoos x
BUT YOU’RE SPEAKING ENGLISH! x
Cultural Appropriation Trolls x
Guide to Being An Appropriating Douchefuck x
New Age ~Culture Mixing~ x
In case you’re tired of the prose, here’s poetry x
Why You Shouldn’t Wear A Bindi x
Appropriating and Sharing x
Our Culture is A Punchline Until It’s a Trend x
Homage Or Insult x
Tattoos and Appropriation x
Bollywood is Not Synonymous With Indian x
College Party Costumes and Stereotypes x
Dotheads x
Bindis and Racist Humour x
Hindu Iconography x 
Misuse of Hindu Iconography x
Your Appreciation Doesn’t Help Us x
Assorted Vials of White Tears and Miscellaneous Antidotesaka I can’t change that I’m white/not all whites are racist/we are all humans:
Unoriginal Arguments Refuted x
Quick Checklist: You Might Be Racist If x
Your Opinion Isn’t Necessary x
I’m Not Responsible For My Ancestors x
The Kumbayah Myth x
Proud to Be White x
Good White Person x
We Don’t Hate White People x
Brutality of Colonialism And Why You Can’t Tell Us To Forget the Past x
People Who Claim Not To See Race Are More Likely to Be Racist x
All Races are Beautiful Said the White Girl x 
Race Blindness Is A Luxury x
Well, You’re Racist For Calling Me Racist x
I’ve Read About Its Significance, I Know What It Means 
Angry Because Someone Called You Racist x
We’re Not All Like That x
People Only Care About This Trivial Shit On The Internet x
I Can’t Apologize for Being Born White, It’s Not My Fault x
Why Can’t You Tell Me What I’m Doing Wrong x
It’s Easy to Be Color Blind When You’re White x
A Diagrammatic Guide To White Tears x
Conversations I’m Sick Of Having With White People x
Why Do You Hate White People x
I’m Trying To Be Cultured x
Sisyphean Conundrum x
What is Your Problem x
We Are All Human, We All Bleed Red x
It’s Just A Bindi x
How Not To Respond To Accusations of Racism x
I’m Italian And 0.009% Native American x
What White People Think Racism Means: A Venn Diagram x
White Guilt x
White Pride!!!111!!! x
I Like *Insert Foreign Country* I Want To Live There x
You Have So Much Hate, Fighting Fire With Fire Won’t Help x
BooHoo, Don’t Call Me Racist x
Not Everything Ended With Your Ancestors x
The Racist Reaction x
I Don’t See Why That Is Racist x
Crummy Apologies x
Okay. I agree. I’ve been socially conditioned not to notice racism and recognize my privilege. What can I do?
Listen x
A Step Wise Guide x
I don’t care about this bullshit; you’re making a big deal out of nothing, go home and delete your blog:
The Clueless White Person Bus x

Always reblog.

thegoddamazon:

vasundharaa:

This is a resource post for all the Good White Persons out there. You know, the ones who say things like “It’s not my fault I’m white! Don’t generalize white people!”, or “I’m appreciating your culture! You should be proud!”, or “Why do you hate all white people, look I’m a special snowflake who’s not racist give me an award for meeting the minimum requirements for being a decent human being”.

Well, if you are actually interested in understanding racism and how it ties into cultural appropriation, please read instead of endlessly badgering PoCs on tumblr with your cliched, unoriginal arguments and repeating the same questions over and over.

On White Privilege
aka don’t blame me just because I’m white:

On Reverse Racism
aka you are being racist against white people:

On Cultural Appropriation
aka I’m just appreciating your culture:

Assorted Vials of White Tears and Miscellaneous Antidotes
aka I can’t change that I’m white/not all whites are racist/we are all humans:


Okay. I agree. I’ve been socially conditioned not to notice racism and recognize my privilege. What can I do?

I don’t care about this bullshit; you’re making a big deal out of nothing, go home and delete your blog:

Always reblog.


I'm fart and I'm smunny.: Reasons why you need to watch Lily Allen's new video right fucking now →

jawnski:

maisiewilliams:

  1. It’s one of the only mainstream expressions of aggressive feminism in music that I have ever seen in my lifetime. Lily Allen not only hints at oppression, she straight up calls it out, makes fun of it and spits in it’s face. She points to not only inequalities in music and…

except that she’s literally also using WOC as objects in her video as well????? that kinda negates any “feminism” she is trying to accomplish tbh

first verse includes the line “dont need to shake my ass for you cause i have a brain”?? okay.. so all the WoC are brainless or..? suuuuper sex posi on that note as well. 

i almost want to ask for thoughts but i am like %110 done with white feminism.


I remember working with a law school in which white men heavily dominated the faculty. They used lots of sports metaphors (doing an end run, Monday morning quarterbacking, and so on), with legal jargon thrown in for good measure. I suggested that this was not a particularly welcoming trait in their school, that in fact it was sexist, but they paid little attention. I made my point by speaking for about five minutes in dressmaking terms: putting a dart in here, a gusset there, cutting the budget on the bias so it would be more flexible, using a peplum to hide a course that might be controversial. The women in the room laughed; the men did not find it humorous….Language is power, make no mistake about it. It is used to include and exclude and to keep people and systems in their places.
— Frances E. Kendall, Understanding White Privilege (via brute-reason)

Anonymous sent: I think its so stupid you're questioning why you prefer black women. Why does it matter "why" you prefer them? Because you're white? If you preferred blondes over brunettes nobody would care! This shouldn't be a controversial topic. Its fucked up that we still see white men liking black women as edgy. So much has changed but not the fact that we still have this underlying feeling to separate races. Love who you want.

fuckyeahsexeducation:

yesiamtheblack:

strippedsoul:

blunthought:

this is a great comment and question; i will happily answer from my perspective.

1) “why does it matter that I prefer Black women..”

  • The relations of Black women and white men have a very long history, involving rape, murder, dehumanization, fetishization, exotification, etc.. This needs to be taken into consideration when getting involved in interracial relationships. It needs to be examined. These people are people who looked like me, who committed these atrocities. I need to examine my reasons for being attracted to Black women because they could be problematic and impact others in oppressive ways.
2) “If I preferred blondes over brunettes, nobody would care..”
  • Race and hair color are not even remotely similar. Hair color is not a socially constructed system that oppresses, marginalizes, and dehumanizes. Therefore, hair color is irrelevant and quite belittling and condescending to this conversation, if your intention was to actually have this conversation.
3) “This shouldn’t be a controversial topic, it’s fucked up we still see white men liking Black women as “edgy”…”
  • it is a controversial topic because white supremacy still dominates our society. It is a controversial topic because I still see white men objectify, exotify, fetishize Black women every day—viewing Black women as sexual conquests to be explored and discarded with. This is why interracial relationships are seen as taboo. This is why they still need to be thought of critically.
4) “so much has changed, not the fact we still have feelings of separating races.”
  • This point needs to be unpacked and requires a lot of jargon to be used so I will do it as brief as possible.
  • "Changed" is not the word I would use. "Adapted" would better represent the systemic, institutional, and individual racism still running rampant. It has adapted into a colorblind racism, which involved many subsets and examples; one, which you are displaying very well, the "we are all human, so why should this matter" example. Yes, we are all human, but that is beside the point. Race is a socially constructed system, which has real life impacts and consequences. Racially, we do not have the same starting line, or the same obstacles we face throughout life. 
  • The words “separation” and “segregation” are entirely different words. 
  1. Segregation is systemic and continues to this very day. (spacial mismatching, urban disinvestment, white flight, zoning, etc.)
  2. Separatism can be used in a few different contexts and it depends who is doing the separating; often the group having the agency in this motion. Separatism can also be used as means for survival (example, the Black Consciousness Movement in South Africa, led by Steve Biko)
5) “Love who I want”
  • I will love whom I want, but not without critical self-evaluation and introspection to make sure that these “personal preferences” are not based on racist socializations that I have been conditioned to perpetuate and believe. 
  • Why would I want my love to be based on power dynamics that benefit me? Instead of actual complementary love which helps me and my partner grow with one another rather than dehumanize..

I love him 

I wish this way of thinking was more prevalent.

More thoughts on why it is important to be critical of your attraction.