- It’s one of the only mainstream expressions of aggressive feminism in music that I have ever seen in my lifetime. Lily Allen not only hints at oppression, she straight up calls it out, makes fun of it and spits in it’s face. She points to not only inequalities in music and…
except that she’s literally also using WOC as objects in her video as well????? that kinda negates any “feminism” she is trying to accomplish tbh
first verse includes the line “dont need to shake my ass for you cause i have a brain”?? okay.. so all the WoC are brainless or..? suuuuper sex posi on that note as well.
i almost want to ask for thoughts but i am like %110 done with white feminism.
this is a great comment and question; i will happily answer from my perspective.
1) “why does it matter that I prefer Black women..”
- The relations of Black women and white men have a very long history, involving rape, murder, dehumanization, fetishization, exotification, etc.. This needs to be taken into consideration when getting involved in interracial relationships. It needs to be examined. These people are people who looked like me, who committed these atrocities. I need to examine my reasons for being attracted to Black women because they could be problematic and impact others in oppressive ways.2) “If I preferred blondes over brunettes, nobody would care..”
- Race and hair color are not even remotely similar. Hair color is not a socially constructed system that oppresses, marginalizes, and dehumanizes. Therefore, hair color is irrelevant and quite belittling and condescending to this conversation, if your intention was to actually have this conversation.3) “This shouldn’t be a controversial topic, it’s fucked up we still see white men liking Black women as “edgy”…”
- it is a controversial topic because white supremacy still dominates our society. It is a controversial topic because I still see white men objectify, exotify, fetishize Black women every day—viewing Black women as sexual conquests to be explored and discarded with. This is why interracial relationships are seen as taboo. This is why they still need to be thought of critically.4) “so much has changed, not the fact we still have feelings of separating races.”
- This point needs to be unpacked and requires a lot of jargon to be used so I will do it as brief as possible.
- "Changed" is not the word I would use. "Adapted" would better represent the systemic, institutional, and individual racism still running rampant. It has adapted into a colorblind racism, which involved many subsets and examples; one, which you are displaying very well, the "we are all human, so why should this matter" example. Yes, we are all human, but that is beside the point. Race is a socially constructed system, which has real life impacts and consequences. Racially, we do not have the same starting line, or the same obstacles we face throughout life.
- The words “separation” and “segregation” are entirely different words.
- Segregation is systemic and continues to this very day. (spacial mismatching, urban disinvestment, white flight, zoning, etc.)
- Separatism can be used in a few different contexts and it depends who is doing the separating; often the group having the agency in this motion. Separatism can also be used as means for survival (example, the Black Consciousness Movement in South Africa, led by Steve Biko)5) “Love who I want”
- I will love whom I want, but not without critical self-evaluation and introspection to make sure that these “personal preferences” are not based on racist socializations that I have been conditioned to perpetuate and believe.
- Why would I want my love to be based on power dynamics that benefit me? Instead of actual complementary love which helps me and my partner grow with one another rather than dehumanize..
I love him
I wish this way of thinking was more prevalent.
More thoughts on why it is important to be critical of your attraction.
The Mo’Nique, Chaka and Maya Angelou photos have me in tears.
but why cant hey just hire a black woman lol
but still funny
I think part of the joke is that Black women look like men.
That’s DEFINITELY part of the joke.
And note how many of those women above are fat black women…
Fat black women = men in society’s eyes.
Which is why Mammy crossdressers are so acceptable…..
There’s this weird sort of almost transphobic vibe that comes with caricatures of fat Black women. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but there’s something really fucked up about it that relates to what trans women have said about how they are treated as “fake” women.
Yes which is also why black women especially of size have experiences with transphobic or transmisogyny simply by being thought to be a fake or a man (and a fat black trans woman, well). It ties too much into that mammy shit, the undesirability of black women. But also the service and deserving of work or being nothing but mules too. We are for work work work. And we can take all the pain and deserve it too. Or worse just don’t feel it. This is why black men have privilege over us and have ways of mocking us that get them rich while still abusing us. Black men enacting this behavior for a piece of the pie are still displaying the hate of black women and stereotypes made of black women by white people. This is why there are all these videos on WSHH with fat black (mostly darker too because somehow it’s funnier the darker she is) women being beat up and smacked and abused and not only is it funny but they deserve it can take it brought it on themselves.
This is why, if I see that shit from here on out, I’m not giving it my money or my eyeballs.
Its transphobic from many sides all at once. Because part of the joke is also that a black person assigned male at birth to “try and be a woman” is so ridiculous that its hilarious. Also that black men and male assigned at birth folks are so hypermasculine by virtue of blackness and assigned maleness, its hilarious to see them “try and be women.” then there is the the component of ridiculing black womanhood and/by creating a caricature of it carried out by black bodies assigned male at birth, “and who can tell the difference anyway right?”, which puts the final stamp on the hilarious seal. Add some mammy and weight tropes and you have the perfect formula for mainstream white audiences.
and then the part that really gets you is that the only component that black men and ppl within our community will see is the “feminizing and/or castrating of the black male.” Thats literally all we care about. Because “the black male phallus is the center of all our lives and community harharr amiright….”
- it is not enough to theorize anti-racism
- it is not enough to post anti-racist articles on facebook
- it is not enough to donate to anti-racist organizations
- you must evaluate your friendships, relationships, and casual interactions with PoC from an explicitly anti-racist lens
- you must challenge yourself when you feel entitled to their time, energy, bodies, or insight
- you must uproot your own inner white supremacist
i reblogged this quote already but i wanted to reblog this again to really encourage folks to read all of Mia’s speech from which this quote is pulled from - if not to let her poignant words settle into our bodies but to also get the full context. Mia shared this speech at the Femmes of Color Symposium in 2012 in Oakland, CA. in her speech she talks about how important it is to challenge ableism in order to create a femmeness that is not exclusionary. and while she does not politically identify as a femme of color, she has had that experience and it has been molded by her being a disabled woman of color.
it was important for me to reblog this again to acknowledge that while i resonate deeply with this quote as a queer and gender non conforming disabled person of color, my masculinity is conducive to desirability in our society at large and the movement spaces we seek to create for liberation, decolonization, etc.
First, I created an email account and resume for Bianca. I kept the same employment history and educational background on her resume that was listed on my own. But I removed my home phone number, kept my listed cell phone number, and changed my cell phone greeting to say, “You have reached Bianca White. Please leave a message.” Then I created an online Monster.com account, listed Bianca as a white woman on the diversity questionnaire, and activated the account.
That very same day, I received a phone call. The next day, my phone line and Bianca’s email address, were packed with potential employers calling for an interview. I was stunned. More shocking was that some employers, mostly Caucasian-sounding women, were calling Bianca more than once, desperate to get an interview with her. All along, my real Monster.com account was open and active; but, despite having the same background as Bianca, I received no phone calls. Two jobs actually did email me and Bianca at the same time. But they were commission only sales positions. Potential positions offering a competitive salary and benefits all went to Bianca.
At the end of my little experiment, (which lasted a week), Bianca White had received nine phone calls—I received none. Bianca had received a total of seven emails, while I’d only received two…
Posting again because it is real.
Hurts my heart
This is indeed upsetting.
- Study shows watching TV boosts self esteem of White male children, decreases self esteem of Black male and all female children.
- "I just want to say that this is why minority representation in the media matters. Mae Jemison was inspired to become an astronaut after watching Nichelle Nichols as Uhura on Star Trek.”
- Lucy Liu on Importance of Representation
- John Cho on Importance of Representation
- Don Cheadle on Importance of Representation
- "She said, ‘Well when I was nine years old Star Trek came on,’ and she said, ‘I looked at it and I went screaming through the house, “Come here, mum, everybody, come quick, come quick, there’s a black lady on television and she ain’t no maid!”’ And she said, ‘I knew right then and there I could be anything I wanted to be, and I want to be on Star Trek.’ ” — WHOOPI GOLDBERG
Nichelle Nichols on meeting Martin Luther King jr. — "I said "I’m going to leave Star Trek because (I was going to say ‘because I have an offer to star in) …I never got that far” He (MARTIN LUTHER KING) said "You cannot - you cannot. For the first time on television we will be seen as we should be seen every day – as intelligent, quality, beautiful people who can sing, dance, but who can also go into space, who can be lawyers, who can be teachers, who can be professors - who ARE on this day, and yet you don’t see it on television – until now…" (—science-officer-spock)
- If you keep refusing to humanize us (media helps to do this) these things will keep happening
In the case of Tim Wise and other leading white anti-racists, we can accurately pin-point the state of the anti-racist movement by unpacking the white privileges they, themselves, hold and benefit from.
The first of these white privileges is one I have already addressed: The ability to paraphrase and/or otherwise exploit the analysis of Black liberation struggle and have it received by others as though it were their own. In the past decade or so, there has grown a cottage industry of books written by white people talking about their whiteness and their awareness of racism. When these white authors fail to acknowledge the debt they owe to the blood struggle of people of color in this country as they often do, they practice a form of racism that keeps that history erased from the consciousness of this country. This enables the white establishment to bypass Black people and hold up their own as authorities on the race question.
This is so well-said and so important. The point made in the last sentence is what is fucked up about what Tim Wise does, it is what is meant by the accusations of plagiarism, and it is why some PoC hate Tim Wise “in spite of” him “fighting for us.”
White people: Writing off the critiques of people of color as irrational or unfounded is just as racist as what you’re allegedly condemning.
This teacher needs to be terminated immediately….at LEAST.
This bitch needs physical violence. LOTS OF IT.
but notice how they humanize the teacher by constantly calling her frustrated. Notice how they put her frustration on the same level as the violence enacted upon this little girl. Lets talk about how deeply an act of violence it is to cut off and throw away a little black girl’s hair to the laughter of the classroom. Or about how the teacher shows the little girl that her mother has no power and cant do anything to protect her by asking “What are you going to tell your mother?” And about how cutting her hair was just as much a message to her mother for sending her child to school with a hairstyle that she deems disruptive and frustrating. And how as a teacher, if you dont have constructive ways of discipline that dont involve terrorizing children then you are unfit for the job. but o she is frustrated and is receiving a small fine as opposed to being fired. Lets talk about what would happen if you terrorized and cut some white child’s hair in a school district with some means, whose parents have a higher property tax….
Reblogging for commentary.
I think Black people are not afforded the luxury of existing without being pigeonholed into an aggressive state of being. Many times Black people are displayed as hyper-aggressive and because of this display we create a mentality that were stuck with hyper-aggressiveness.
That isn’t to say that being strong, tough, or aggressive are bad things, they come with our survival. But the vulnerability, pain, and gentleness that Black people reveal are not present many times in the media or even in our homes. The luxury of intimacy with other people is so small in comparison to the thousands of images of us being strong and “animalistic” (by intimacy I mean without guards, barriers, being invested with other people without a facade to what you are or layers you create.)
Similar to the phrase ”carefree black girls and boys”, I wanted to give a safe space to vulnerablity of Blackness to be on display—————————————————-Genteel, Romanctic, Poetic, Ethereal, intimate and vulnerable imagery of Black people
Can we talk about how freaking beautiful he is….seriously. My God
I will be doing this.